Friday, February 17, 2012

Loving Actions

Thought I would share this email that I got thoughts below....

Loving Actions
Thursday, February 16, 2012

Honoring Your Wife...

Let your wife teach you how you can best meet her needs during a crisis or 
 when she's discouraged and losing energy.

- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley

All excerpts from "It Takes Two to Tango" are copyright 1997 Gary and
Norma Smalley, and are used with permission.

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I found this very interesting today.  To be real with you (whomever is reading;0) today I had a
difficult day.  And kinda for no reason.  Both Em and I slept through the night (between the two of us,
there are about 2 hours I'm up in the early squirrrely hours of the morning lately).  But praise the Lord, Wednesday night was not one of those.  I got up early and got ready for a fun day in Oakland visiting a friend and I was off for my day...

I had tried to reach Tyler a few times throughout the morning and was unsuccessful.  I stopped by the office on my way out of town and the office was like a ghost town...then about Manteca, Emma throws up and SECONDS later, I'm stuck in traffic (that I had to sit through until the next exit).  It took me a little over an hour to get home.  In the meanwhile I've texted Tyler (bad me, I know, but traffic was stop and go, and I did it during a stop;0)...and didn't hear back from him that whole hour.  

Got home, cleaned up Em, the car, the car seat, tried to put her back down for a nap (she usually sleeps about 2 hours, so there was potential for another hour) and I just started to feel lonely and desperate.  Like Tyler's my safety and he wasn't around to rescue me or something...and I found myself saying that I just wished he'd walk through the door, hug me and rescue me from my day.

My day.  That really wasn't bad at all, but for some reason, I just felt like I needed rescuing.  

Maybe I needed assurance from Tyler that Em was OK?  Who knows. 

What I do know is that whenever I'm feeling blah, I've heard Tyler say he just doesn't know what to do or say to make things better.  And up until last night (I started writing last night but then it was bedtime:0) I had never been able to give him a response.  For some reason, this email coming through and my experience was like, "Oh, I guess that is what I need/want when in crisis, discouraged, losing it (or energy;0)".

Anyway...that's a little bit about me and my crazies.  Have you ever thought about what you need during these times?  I would encourage you to figure it out and share with your spouse.  Being able to communicate that to him last night already made me feel better.  Now I will just pray he remembers the convo for when my next time of need comes about.


Cathy/Nani said...

Couldn't find the link to what you are talking about??? ;)

Cathy/Nani said...